Version 3: the log of soft deletes, so that one can be undone for a few seconds.
She puts a memory away (it is hidden, nothing is deleted) and a row says so. undo moves the memory back
and stamps undone_at_ms; the core's rule says for how long that is allowed. A soft action belongs to its
memory: the parents forgetting the memory deletes the row with it (ON DELETE CASCADE), so a forgotten memory
has nothing left to undo and no state can say otherwise. The row holds an identity and a time, never words.